Multi Facilitated relationships.

A book I have been reading More then Two and other issues in my relationship with my “primary” partner has forced me to look my relationships and how I want them formed.

Something that I think is very dangerous and leads to a deadly trap for relationships, romantic or platonic, is a “need to get something out of the relationship”.  I view a relationship as something on that is it’s own reward.  Pulling peaces out of a couple of people to
get what you want” is disingenuous of the both the giver and receiver.  You can’t take part of someone and expect them to fill some hole in your fabric ends up leading you both as a patchwork quilt. That quilt of a is never really whole and never really able to function for who ever has it for that time.

Part of any relationship is exploring your partners and growing.  Being honest with your self and your partner is difficult. You need to figure out what you “want”.  As my live-in partner said to me last night “we don’t have any clean answers”; we can’t have answers to the future. Life is messy and difficult and there are thousands of possible road to follow.  The real journey of a relationship is not to be “better”, “grow”, or learn. The relationship is the journey, and there can be no destination. It’s possible to control how the journey winds through our life, but that will only work for so long. Eventually the strength of each partner will force the relationship back to what it really is.

I think it’s a good idea to self reflect and look at what form you want a relationship to take, but also being able to understand that the forms will change as life forces everyone in the relationship to change.  A main focus is how to adjust to each relational change and how to incorporate it your life and relationships.


NRA Leadership.

Should the NRA be focused 100% on every single fight that they will lose? Does Wayne LaPierre  need to go and do we need new leadership in the NRA?

I think that push is risky at the current time. Pro 2A groups are facing a number of attacks from anti-gun groups such as Everytown.  Michael Bloomberg is using a LOT of his own money and his contacts within the Democratic Party to remove rights to defend themselves.

The NRA is the very visible face of the Second Amendment groups.  That makes them a lighting rod for attacks from politicians. That allows other Pro-2A groups to fight with fewer attacks from government and PACs.

The NRA also has to decide where to fight.  Fighting every small fight from the national level will end up pushing the 2A fight back to the national level where we have a number of fronts that will have to attacked. The media has show time and again they are very anti-gun/anti-self defense.  Also the political parties both are more then happy to disregard their constituents wills and limit the right to bear arms. Fighting all these groups at the same time will be a major drain on the limited resources of the NRA. Choosing the fights that we be won is a good way to start pushing things the laws that need to be removed.

Rebuilding my site

I have been rebuilding my site. I was trying to build up with Blogofile. That did not work out as I had planned and was much harder to update and mantain then I expected. As I have decided to mostly use a blog I have decided to move over to WordPress. I needed a system that is easier to update.

Being a single father my time is very limited. I think WordPress  will let me update more often and allow me to spread my disjointed thoughts off over the internet.